They Will Know Us by Our Love: A Lament and a Calling

Lately, it seems the air is thick with suspicion. The headlines, the conversations at gas stations, the whispers in pews and the shouting in comment sections—so much of it is steeped in fear, in “us” versus “them,” in a kind of cold certainty that forgets the imago Dei in each face.

I find myself grieving.

Grieving the ways we have othered each other.

Grieving the ways God’s name is used like a weapon instead of a refuge.

Grieving the steady drumbeat of dehumanization that masquerades as conviction.

We are naming enemies where there are neighbors. We are calling strangers dangerous before we’ve ever shared a meal or heard their story. We are painting entire people groups with broad, fearful strokes and then calling it holy.

But it isn’t holy.
It isn’t even human.

When we strip someone of their dignity because of where they were born, who they love, the color of their skin, the questions they carry, the clothes they wear, the God they pray to (or don’t), we are not being faithful. We are being forgetful.

We have forgotten the way Jesus knelt—not stood tall—beside the hurting.
We have forgotten how He touched the unclean, dined with the scandalous, defended the accused, wept with the grieving, and silenced the mob.

We have forgotten the tenderness that scandalized the religious elite.
We have forgotten that the distinguishing mark of His followers is not correct doctrine, sharp arguments, or moral superiority.

It’s love.
“By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” — John 13:35

Not love in theory.
Not love in the abstract.
Not love only for those who look like us, think like us, worship like us.

But a love that crosses borders.
A love that pauses to listen.
A love that disarms instead of dominates.
A love that says, “I see God’s fingerprint on your life, even if I don’t understand your path.”

And yet here we are, in a time when suspicion is baptized and hate is dressed in church clothes. We hear that defending “truth” justifies cruelty, that purity demands exclusion, that God needs our outrage more than our compassion.

No.
That is not the Gospel.

The Gospel is the good news that God moved toward us in our brokenness.
And now we are to move toward others in theirs.

This kind of love does not mean the absence of boundaries or the approval of harm. But it does mean we resist the easy narratives that flatten people into caricatures. It means we tell the truth, yes—but with tears in our eyes, not venom in our voice.

It means when we speak of judgment, it is not with glee.
It is not with gloating.
It is not with gnarled fingers pointing outward, but with trembling hands open in repentance.

Because all of us—all of us—have fallen short.

And still, grace runs toward us like the father of the prodigal.
Still, mercy makes room at the table.
Still, we are being shaped by a God whose justice always partners with compassion.

So today, I pray we soften.
That we listen more than we speak.
That we lean in instead of turning away.

And that the world might begin to recognize us again—
not by the sharpness of our opinions,
not by the people we fear,
not by the lines we draw—
but by the unmistakable, tender, audacious love that looks like Jesus.

The Kind of Difference We Make

“You cannot get through a single day without having an impact on the world around you. What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make.” — Jane Goodall

It’s easy to believe that our lives are small. That our choices slip quietly through the cracks of the day, unnoticed and unseen. But Jane Goodall’s words call us back to something truer: whether we intend to or not, we leave a mark. Every day. Every one of us.

That mark might look like the smile we offer a stranger—or the one we withhold. It could be the gentle way we greet our children, or the edge in our tone when we feel overwhelmed and under-slept. It might show up in the way we speak about people who are different than us, the way we show up (or don’t) for those on the margins, the way we care for creation, or the way we care for ourselves.

We’re always in motion, always rippling outward.

Some days, I find that thought heavy—like the weight of responsibility is too much. Other days, it feels like a gift: the holy reminder that my life is not meaningless. That even the unseen moments, the quiet kindnesses, the small repairs I offer in my relationships, matter.

We all shape the world with our presence. With our purchases. With our posts. With our prayers. With our patterns.

And if we’re going to make a difference anyway—why not choose the kind that leans toward healing?

What if we asked ourselves at the start of each day:

  • What kind of difference do I want to make today?
  • What would it look like to leave people more whole, not less?
  • How can I be part of mending what’s been broken—whether in my family, my community, or my own heart?

We don’t need a grand platform or a perfect plan. Just the willingness to be intentional. To be kind when it costs something. To be present when it would be easier to disengage. To be a little braver, a little softer, a little more loving.

This isn’t about perfection. It’s about participation.

You matter. You always have.
And today—like every day—you’re already making a difference.
May it be the kind that brings a bit more light into the world.

The Delight of Difference

“If a man is to survive, he will learn to take delight in the essential differences between cultures. To learn that differences in ideas and attitudes are a delight, part of life’s exciting variety, not something to fear.”Gene Roddenberry

There’s a quiet bravery in choosing wonder over fear.

In a world that often encourages sameness, where algorithms feed us familiar content and news cycles reinforce our own perspectives, it can be easy to forget that difference is not a threat. It’s a gift. The kind that challenges us, invites us into growth, and expands the landscape of our humanity.

Roddenberry, the mind behind Star Trek, knew this deeply. He imagined worlds where beings from different galaxies didn’t just coexist—they learned from one another. They didn’t simply tolerate difference; they delighted in it.

What if we did the same?

What if we looked at unfamiliar customs not with suspicion, but with sacred curiosity? What if we heard a foreign accent and leaned in with interest, rather than pulling back with discomfort? What if opposing ideas didn’t threaten our identity, but instead deepened it by helping us refine what we truly believe?

To take delight in difference is not to abandon conviction—it’s to understand that our conviction grows stronger when it has been tested, stretched, and refined by perspective. That our identity becomes more whole when it’s informed by stories not our own.

Survival, as Roddenberry puts it, hinges not on domination or isolation, but on connection. A connection that makes space for paradox, for nuance, for the vibrancy of lives lived differently than our own.

As someone who walks alongside trauma survivors, travelers, students, and seekers of all kinds, I’ve seen how healing often begins the moment we are seen and honored—not in spite of our differences, but because of them. There is something deeply sacred about being received in our particularity.

The invitation, then, is not just to tolerate one another, but to celebrate the mosaic of cultures, beliefs, values, and expressions that make up this human experience.

Because when we delight in difference, we aren’t just surviving—we’re becoming more fully alive.

Helping the Household of Faith

“So then, as we have opportunity, let us do good to everyone, and especially to those who are of the household of faith.” – Galatians 6:10

In a world where suffering rarely takes a break, we are called to lean in—not turn away.

I think often of that verse in Galatians. It’s tucked gently into the end of Paul’s letter, a reminder that our faith doesn’t float in abstraction. It moves. It acts. It crosses borders, kneels low, and brings bread to the hungry and comfort to the grieving. It reaches for those in the thick of battle—not just metaphorically, but sometimes quite literally.

When war breaks out—whether across oceans or in the quiet tremors of someone’s soul—our first response isn’t to ask, is it safe? It’s to ask, is it faithful?

Because the Church is not confined to comfort.

The Church—the household of faith—is a global, breathing Body. And when one part suffers, we all suffer. When our brothers and sisters are displaced, bombed, starved, or isolated, we cannot simply offer prayers from the sidelines and call it enough.

We’re meant to embody the prayers we pray.

Helping the household of faith in war zones means listening when the rest of the world forgets. It means supporting local churches and pastors who stay behind to care for the broken. It means resourcing trauma care for the weary, showing up with blankets and bread, and reminding the faithful in hiding that they are not forgotten by the family of God.

It’s easy to romanticize suffering from afar. But real help is not romantic—it is rugged. It’s sending supplies in the mud. It’s finding ways to translate truth across language and pain. It’s navigating checkpoints and curfews and trauma triggers to sit with the grieving and to whisper, You’re not alone. The Church sees you. God sees you.

Helping the household of faith in war zones also means refusing to let global conflict numb us into inaction. It means choosing proximity. Choosing presence. Choosing to let our comfort be disrupted by the discomfort of others—because that is what love does.

And sometimes… it simply means showing up with loaves and fishes, trusting that God still multiplies.

This is our moment to be the Church—not just in sanctuary, but in the rubble.

May we carry each other across borders and battle lines. May we see beyond headlines into homes and hearts. And may we never forget that the household of faith is bigger than the pew beside us.

It stretches across oceans.

It bleeds and weeps and prays in the trenches.

And it waits for us—not just to care, but to come.

When One Part Suffers: Showing Up for the Household of Faith

“If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together. Now you are the body of Christ and individually members of it.” – 1 Corinthians 12:26-27

The Church—the household of faith—is a global, breathing Body.
And when one part suffers, we all suffer.
When our brothers and sisters are displaced, bombed, starved, or isolated, we cannot simply offer prayers from the sidelines and call it enough.

Prayer is powerful—but so is presence.
And presence, when partnered with compassion, looks like action.

In a world filled with war zones, both visible and hidden, our calling doesn’t shift to self-protection. It leans harder into love. The body of Christ is not a metaphorical ideal we reference in Sunday sermons. It is a living, aching, Spirit-filled truth. And when that Body bleeds in one place, it throbs in another—if we’re paying attention.

We’re invited, not just to feel, but to move.

To send resources.
To amplify stories.
To wrap arms around refugees.
To train counselors.
To support pastors.
To keep showing up in the tension between despair and hope.

Because this is the mystery and miracle of the gospel—that God entered into our suffering, and now calls us to do the same.

When we lift up those in war zones—the widowed, the weary, the ones rebuilding churches from rubble—we aren’t reaching down. We’re reaching across. We’re strengthening our own frame by holding theirs.

And we must not grow weary in doing good.

To be the Church in a world of conflict means we choose proximity over comfort. Compassion over complacency. It means we remember that when a sister is sleeping in a train station or a brother is holding worship in a basement by candlelight, they are still Church—as much as we are.

Maybe more so.

Let’s not settle for soft sympathy when God invites us into fierce, embodied love. Let’s step beyond safe prayers and into sacred solidarity.

Because when one part suffers, we all suffer.
And when one part hopes, we all rise.

When the Flag Becomes an Idol: The Idolatry of Christian Nationalism

There is a growing movement—loud in voice and powerful in influence—that insists the only faithful Christian is a patriotic one. That to follow Jesus is to defend a particular nation, political agenda, or cultural dominance. It wraps crosses in flags and confuses political power with spiritual authority.

This is the doctrine of Christian nationalism.
And make no mistake: it is not the Gospel.
It is not faithfulness. It is idolatry.

What Is Christian Nationalism?

Christian nationalism is the belief that a nation—most often the United States—is specially chosen by God and should be governed by Christian values as interpreted through a particular political lens. It often suggests that to be a “true” American is to be a Christian, and to be a “true” Christian is to align with specific nationalistic or partisan views.

But this isn’t just about personal belief. It’s about systems, power, and control. It seeks to conflate God’s Kingdom with earthly rule, to wield Scripture as a weapon for dominance, and to reshape civic life around a narrow religious identity.

The Dominionist Roots

Christian nationalism is deeply influenced by dominionism—a theological movement that emerged in the late 20th century, especially among some charismatic and evangelical circles. Dominion theology teaches that Christians are meant to “take dominion” over the Earth by influencing or controlling the “seven mountains” of culture: government, media, education, business, family, religion, and the arts.

While rooted in a misinterpretation of Genesis 1:28 (“have dominion over the earth”), dominionism distorts this call to stewardship into a call for control—as if Jesus came to install a theocracy rather than to redeem hearts.

This ideology reimagines the Great Commission not as a call to make disciples of all nations through love, presence, and truth—but as a mandate to seize political power and enforce religious conformity. That is not biblical. That is empire-building.

Why This Grieves God

Jesus refused political power. When offered all the kingdoms of the world, He said no. When pressured to become a military leader, He withdrew. When questioned about allegiance, He said, “My Kingdom is not of this world.”

God does not need a flag to move His Spirit. He does not bless power grabs, fear tactics, or supremacy cloaked in religious language. In fact, He consistently speaks against them.

The prophets condemned Israel not for a lack of nationalism, but for a lack of justice, mercy, and faithfulness. Jesus rebuked the religious elite not for failing to enforce purity laws, but for neglecting the weightier matters of the law—justice and compassion. The early church grew not by wielding power but by laying it down.

Christian nationalism attempts to force what Jesus invites us to freely receive—the transformation of hearts and the ushering in of God’s Kingdom, not by law, but by love.

The Danger of Idolatry

Idolatry is not just bowing down to golden calves. It’s trusting in anything other than God for our identity, security, or salvation.
Christian nationalism turns the nation into a god.
It turns political leaders into messiahs.
It turns allegiance to a country into a test of faith.

And that, friend, is dangerous ground.

Whenever faith is fused with political identity, the Gospel gets distorted. It stops being good news for the poor, the refugee, the oppressed—and becomes a tool to preserve privilege and power.

Faithful Resistance

Following Jesus means resisting the pull of empire. It means remembering that the Kingdom of God is not built through elections or policy platforms, but through love, sacrifice, humility, and truth.

It means seeing our neighbors as image-bearers, not enemies. It means standing against systems that oppress, even when those systems benefit us. It means refusing to baptize nationalism as Christianity—and instead proclaiming a Gospel big enough for every tribe, tongue, and nation.

A Better Allegiance

Our ultimate allegiance is not to a country, a party, or a flag.
It is to a King who rode in on a donkey, not a warhorse.
Who wore a crown of thorns, not one of gold.
Who conquered not with violence, but with self-giving love.

To follow Him is to live in a way that confronts injustice, welcomes the outsider, and tells the truth—even when it costs us.

So may we repent of the idols we’ve made. May we resist the temptation to confuse patriotism with discipleship. And may we remember:
The Gospel does not need a flag to be powerful.
It only needs a willing heart and an open hand.

When Injustice Is Baked In: Why Systemic Racism Grieves the Heart of God

There are wounds in our world that aren’t caused by a single act—but by centuries of systems, stories, and silences that have allowed injustice to thrive.

Systemic racism isn’t just about personal prejudice—it’s about the way injustice gets built into the very structures of society: into our schools, our healthcare systems, our housing policies, our legal systems, even our churches. It’s the quiet but consistent pattern that keeps certain groups from flourishing, generation after generation.

And let’s be clear: God sees it. God grieves it.
Because systemic racism is not just a political issue. It’s a spiritual one.

God of Justice, Not Partiality

Scripture is saturated with God’s heart for justice. Over and over, we see a God who defends the oppressed, uplifts the marginalized, and calls His people to do the same.

“Let justice roll down like waters, and righteousness like an ever-flowing stream.” — Amos 5:24
“God shows no partiality.” — Romans 2:11

God’s justice is not passive. It is active. It doesn’t just wait for heaven; it demands action here and now.

Racism—especially when built into systems that advantage some while disadvantaging others—is the opposite of God’s justice. It assigns value based on skin tone instead of sacred worth. It dehumanizes what God has declared as “very good.” It sows division where Christ came to bring unity.

Why It Matters to God

Systemic racism harms people God created in His image.
It distorts the Imago Dei.
It crushes opportunity.
It inflicts trauma.
It fuels generational pain.

And for those who follow Jesus, it also compromises our witness. How can we proclaim a Gospel of reconciliation while upholding systems of exclusion? How can we say “Jesus loves you” while ignoring the ways society continually treats some lives as more valuable than others?

Jesus turned over tables in the temple not just because of corruption, but because the place that was meant to be a house of prayer for all nations had become a place of exploitation. He still does not tolerate injustice dressed up in religious respectability.

The Church’s Role

The Church is called to be a prophetic presence in the world—not a silent bystander.
We are called to name injustice, confess our complicity, and commit to change.
Not once. Not for show. But as a posture of discipleship.

To love our neighbor means confronting what harms them.
To follow Jesus means standing where He stands—always with the oppressed, never with the oppressor.

Reckoning and Repair

Racial injustice didn’t appear overnight—and it won’t heal overnight. But we can begin:

  • By listening to voices we’ve ignored.
  • By lamenting out loud instead of staying quiet.
  • By examining the systems we live in—and our role within them.
  • By asking hard questions of our churches, our schools, our workplaces, and ourselves.
  • By choosing justice, even when it costs us comfort.

This is not about guilt. It’s about responsibility. It’s about waking up to the truth that racism is not just “out there”—it’s in the structures we navigate daily.

A Gospel Big Enough for Justice

The Gospel is not just about going to heaven. It’s about the inbreaking of God’s Kingdom on earth as it is in heaven. A Kingdom where every tribe, tongue, and nation is welcomed. A Kingdom where justice and mercy walk hand in hand. A Kingdom that will not tolerate the walls we’ve built.

God is not indifferent to injustice.
And neither can we be.

Because in God’s economy, there is no “us and them”—only beloved.
And when we work for racial justice, we are not being “political”—we are being faithful.

When One Is Diminished, We All Are: Confronting Systemic Sexism in Light of Scripture

We were never meant to build systems that favor one group at the expense of another. And yet, from boardrooms to pulpits, from paychecks to policy, systemic sexism weaves through the fabric of our society—limiting opportunities, silencing voices, and distorting the image of God in one another.

It’s easy to think of sexism as something personal—an offhand comment, a discriminatory hiring decision, a condescending tone. But systemic sexism is deeper. It’s not just in individual choices; it’s in the structure of things. It’s in the assumptions we make about leadership. It’s in the way certain work is undervalued because it’s often done by women. It’s in the underrepresentation of women in decision-making spaces and the overrepresentation of their pain in unaddressed trauma, abuse, and inequity.

And here’s the truth: everyone loses in a system built like that.

When women are excluded, the Church loses ministers, prophets, and peacemakers. When women are dismissed, the workplace loses innovation, wisdom, and collaborative strength. When girls are raised to doubt their voice, the world loses the sound of half its song.

The Cost to Society

Systemic sexism is not just a women’s issue—it’s a human issue. It robs our families, churches, communities, and institutions of their fullness. When half the population is constrained by ceilings, closed doors, or coded expectations, our collective potential shrinks. We settle for less when God made us for more—together.

Studies have long shown the societal benefits of gender equity: stronger economies, healthier families, more effective leadership teams. But Scripture pointed us to this long before the data did.

A Biblical Vision of Shared Dignity

The Bible begins with a radical declaration for its time: male and female He created them… in the image of God (Genesis 1:27). From the first page, we are shown a God who made both men and women as image-bearers—equal in worth, distinct in form, and designed to work in mutual partnership.

Throughout Scripture, we see God lifting the voices and gifts of women: Deborah, a judge and prophet. Mary Magdalene, the first witness to the resurrection. Priscilla, a teacher of theology. The Samaritan woman, the first evangelist in her town. These are not footnotes—they are frontline examples of God’s liberating power and affirmation.

Jesus consistently elevated women in a culture that did not. He spoke directly to them, dignified their questions, welcomed their leadership, and received their presence as essential—not optional—to His ministry.

Systemic sexism is not just socially damaging. It is theologically dissonant.

The Call to the Church

If the Church is to reflect the heart of Christ, then we must reckon with the systems—both secular and sacred—that have marginalized women and perpetuated harm. This isn’t about tokenism. It’s about transformation.

It’s about repenting where we’ve misunderstood Scripture to uphold hierarchy instead of humility. It’s about reimagining leadership structures that reflect the full Body of Christ. It’s about listening deeply to the stories of those who’ve been silenced—and believing them.

We must remember: we don’t honor Scripture by protecting our power. We honor Scripture by reflecting its Author—who came not to be served, but to serve; who welcomed women as disciples; who called us all to steward our gifts, not bury them.

A Kingdom of Wholeness

God’s Kingdom is not built on domination, but on shalom—wholeness, restoration, right relationship. That vision cannot be realized while systemic sexism remains embedded in our culture and institutions.

So we speak up. We examine the systems we’re part of. We make space at the table. We name what’s broken, not to shame, but to heal.

Because when one part of the Body suffers, we all do.
And when one part is honored, we all rejoice.

When the World Breaks and We Still Breathe

Some questions don’t have clean answers.
Why do bad things happen?
Why do children suffer?
Why are we here?

These aren’t just philosophical musings. – they’re wilderness cries They’re cries from hospital rooms, quiet bedsides, and the tearful silence of those who’ve seen too much too young. They rise from the rubble of warzones and the ache of abandoned hearts. They come from the therapist’s chair, too—from little voices asking questions no child should have to form.

“Why did this happen to me?”
“What did I do wrong?”
“Why did God let it happen?”

And if we’re honest, we’ve asked them, too.

The Ache of Injustice

It’s one thing to wrestle with suffering in theory. It’s another to look into the eyes of a child who’s been harmed and try to hold their pain with dignity and hope. There’s a kind of heartbreak that makes the world tilt sideways, where even the most well-intentioned theology can feel hollow.

We want answers.
We want justice.
We want to believe that life makes sense—that there is order, purpose, and meaning.

But sometimes, all we have is presence.

What to Do With the Hurt

When children are wounded by abuse, neglect, violence, or loss, our first task isn’t to explain their pain away. It’s to honor it. To hold space for the heartbreak. To say with our eyes, our hands, our breath: You matter. You are not alone. What happened to you was not your fault.

We become meaning-makers by how we show up—not just by what we say.

  • We hold their trembling stories with reverence.
  • We mirror back the truth of their worth when shame whispers otherwise.
  • We become safe, predictable, and kind—until their bodies begin to believe safety is possible again.

And slowly, healing comes. Not always with fanfare. Not in a straight line. But it comes—in laughter that returns, in eyes that meet yours, in the fierce little declarations like, “I made a new friend today.” That, too, is a kind of resurrection.

Why Are We Here?

Existentialists have long asked the question: What is the meaning of life?

Some would say, “There isn’t one”—at least not an inherent one. But maybe that’s the wrong question.

Maybe it’s not about finding some prewritten meaning. Maybe it’s about making it.

Maybe we’re here to love.
To see each other.
To suffer with and for one another.
To be the balm in someone else’s wound.
To choose kindness even when life feels cruel.

As a person of faith, I believe we are part of a much larger story—one that includes pain but isn’t defined by it. I believe in a God who suffers with us. A God who weeps, not because He is powerless, but because love always joins the hurting. And I believe we are here to reflect that kind of love—to be image-bearers of mercy, even in a fractured world.

Holding the Questions

I don’t have all the answers. None of us do.

But I do know this: When we stop pretending we have to tie it all up in a neat bow, we make room for something better—something real. We make space for healing. For wonder. For solidarity. For hope.

Even amid the ache, life still calls us to show up.

To hold the questions tenderly.
To care for the brokenhearted.
To find meaning in how we love.

And maybe, just maybe, that’s the holiest work of all.

The Sunshine Where Virtue Grows

“Kindness is the sunshine in which virtue grows.” — Robert Green Ingersoll

There’s something quietly profound about the way kindness works. It’s not flashy or forceful. It doesn’t demand applause. It doesn’t parade itself as power. And yet, kindness has a way of transforming the very soil of our lives—softening what’s hardened, nourishing what’s withered, and drawing out the beauty of things buried deep.

Robert Green Ingersoll’s words remind me that kindness isn’t just an isolated act—it’s a kind of atmosphere. The sunshine in which virtue grows.

We live in a world where virtue is often reduced to performance or principle—something to be proven, defended, or displayed. But real virtue, the kind that lasts and bears fruit, is relational. It grows best in warmth. It grows when people are safe to be human. When mistakes are met with grace. When pain is met with compassion. When we are given room to become.

Without kindness, virtue withers. It becomes brittle, harsh, even prideful. But with kindness? With kindness, honesty becomes healing. Courage becomes contagious. Humility becomes strength.

In my work—sitting with people in the ache of trauma, grief, and unmet longing—I’ve learned that few things are more healing than simple kindness. The kind that doesn’t try to fix or rush or preach. The kind that sits beside you in silence. That looks you in the eye and says, “You matter.” That believes in your goodness even when you can’t see it for yourself.

Kindness is not weakness. It’s not passivity. It’s not naïve. Kindness is a choice. A strength. A discipline. And perhaps, most importantly, a witness—a quiet protest against the cruelty of a world that too often teaches us to compete, harden, and hide.

If you’ve ever bloomed under someone’s kindness, you know this truth firsthand. You know how it loosens shame’s grip. How it opens your heart. How it changes your story. And maybe—just maybe—you’ve also seen how offering kindness, even in small ways, has the power to shift a room, mend a heart, or grow something sacred in someone else.

So today, may we remember:
The sunshine of kindness is not wasted.
It may not always be returned. It may not always be seen.
But still, it nourishes. Still, it matters.
And in time, it grows virtue—in us, and through us.

Let’s be the ones who bring the sunshine.
Let’s be the ones who make it easier for others to grow.