Falling Isn’t the End: How God Uses Failure to Shape Us

“For a righteous man may fall seven times and rise again,
But the wicked shall fall by calamity.”

— Proverbs 24:16

“Now to Him who is able to keep you from stumbling,
and to present you faultless before the presence of His glory with exceeding joy…”

— Jude 24

Failure is something we all experience.
It humbles us.
It unsettles us.
It exposes our weaknesses, our pride, and our unmet expectations.

But here’s the good news: God is not surprised by our failure.
And He is not undone by it.
In fact, He can use it more powerfully than we imagine.

The Truth About Falling

Jude reminds us that God is able to keep us from stumbling—and yet, we know we do stumble. We falter. We fall. So how do we reconcile these two truths?

Here’s how: God’s ability to hold us doesn’t mean we never fall. It means we’re never beyond His reach when we do.

He knows that failure, when placed in His hands, becomes a refining tool.
It softens us.
It shapes us.
It makes us more aware of our need for grace—and more willing to extend it to others.

Failure Isn’t Final—Unless You Quit

Peter is one of Scripture’s most relatable examples.

He told Jesus boldly, “Even if everyone else stumbles, I never will.” (Matthew 26:33)

Jesus gently, but truthfully, told him otherwise. And sure enough, Peter denied Christ three times before morning broke.

But Peter’s failure didn’t begin with his denial.
It began with overconfidence—the belief that he was above falling.

That’s often where our own stumbling starts.
Not in the mistake itself, but in the pride that thinks we never could.

What We Do After Matters Most

When we fail, the temptation is to focus so fully on the failure that we forget God’s grace.

We say things like:

  • “God can’t use me anymore.”

  • “My ministry is over.”

  • “I’ve ruined everything.”

  • “This is who I am now.”

But the truth is, failure is never final unless we quit trying.

As long as we keep getting back up, keep learning, and keep moving forward with a surrendered heart, God is still at work.

“He who began a good work in you will be faithful to complete it…” (Philippians 1:6)

The Righteous Fall—But They Rise

Proverbs draws a striking contrast:
The righteous may fall again and again—but they rise.
The wicked fall and stay down.

Why the difference?
Because the righteous understand that failure is part of growth.
That stumbling doesn’t disqualify them from grace.
That God’s strength is made perfect in weakness.

Failure can destroy us.
Or it can shape us.
And the difference often lies in whether we’re willing to let God meet us in the middle of it.

God’s Definition of Success

God’s idea of success isn’t perfection.
It’s perseverance.

It’s humility.
It’s willingness to learn.
It’s openness to correction.
It’s the refusal to give up—even after we fall.

Failure can be one of the greatest teachers we’ll ever have.
It can remove our rough edges, soften our hearts, and redirect our paths.
It can teach us what not to do—and how to walk in deeper dependence on the One who never fails.

A Final Word of Encouragement

If you’ve fallen recently—or if you’re sitting in the aftermath of something you wish had gone differently—know this:

God is not finished with you.
He’s not ashamed of you.
And He doesn’t define you by your worst moment.

Bring your failure to Him.
Let Him shape it into wisdom.
Let Him use it for good.

And then… get back up.

Because you’re not alone.
And He’s not done yet.

A Favorite Hymn

This is one of my favorite hymns of all time.

And can it be that I should gain
An int’rest in the Savior’s blood?
Died He for me, who caused His pain?
For me, who Him to death pursued?
Amazing love! how can it be
That Thou, my God, shouldst die for me?
Amazing love! how can it be
That Thou, my God, shouldst die for me?
‘Tis mystery all! The Immortal dies!
Who can explore His strange design?
In vain the firstborn seraph tries
To sound the depths of love Divine!
‘Tis mercy all! let earth adore,
Let angel minds inquire no more.
‘Tis mercy all! let earth adore,
Let angel minds inquire no more.
He left His Father’s throne above,
So free, so infinite His grace;
Emptied Himself of all but love,
And bled for Adam’s helpless race:
‘Tis mercy all, immense and free;
For, O my God, it found out me.
‘Tis mercy all, immense and free;
For, O my God, it found out me.

Long my imprisoned spirit lay
Fast bound in sin and nature’s night;
Thine eye diffused a quickening ray,
I woke, the dungeon flamed with light;
My chains fell off, my heart was free,
I rose, went forth, and followed Thee.
My chains fell off, my heart was free,
I rose, went forth, and followed Thee.

No condemnation now I dread;
Jesus, and all in Him, is mine!
Alive in Him, my living Head,
And clothed in righteousness Divine,
Bold I approach the eternal throne,
And claim the crown, through Christ my own.
Bold I approach the eternal throne,
And claim the crown, through Christ my own.

Charles Wesley

Reaching for Healing: The Woman, the Touch, and the Hope That Heals

“Now a certain woman had a flow of blood for twelve years… She had spent all that she had and was no better, but rather grew worse. When she heard about Jesus, she came behind Him in the crowd and touched His garment… And He said to her, ‘Daughter, your faith has made you well. Go in peace, and be healed of your affliction.'”
— Mark 5:25–34

Alone. Sick. Desperate.

This woman—whose name we’re never told—was completely cut off.
Not just physically suffering from a chronic hemorrhage for twelve years, but socially and spiritually unclean according to the law. Untouchable. Unwelcome. Unseen.

She had spent everything she had trying to get better—physicians, treatments, remedies—but nothing had worked. In fact, she had only grown worse.

She had no resources left.
No more options.
No hope…

Until she heard that Jesus was coming through the crowd.

She Shouldn’t Have Been There—But She Came Anyway

By every standard of her time, this woman had no right to be in public, let alone in a crowd. Her condition made her ceremonially unclean, which meant anyone she touched would be unclean too.

But she came.
Quietly.
Humbly.
Expectantly.

She wasn’t trying to make a scene. She wasn’t looking for attention.
She just wanted to be whole.

“If only I may touch His clothes, I shall be made well.”

That thought—born out of deep need and deep belief—led her to reach out with faith.
Not a tentative, maybe-it’ll-work kind of faith. But a bold, I know He can kind of faith.

And in that one moment of contact, healing came.

The Power That Flows—and the Cost It Carries

Immediately, her body was healed.
But the story doesn’t end there.

Jesus stopped.

In the middle of a crowded street, surrounded by people pressing in on every side, He paused and asked, “Who touched My clothes?”

Of course, He already knew.
But He wanted her to know.
To know that she wasn’t just healed—she was seen.

He wanted her to have the opportunity to declare her faith, to be publicly restored, and to hear the words that would change everything:

“Daughter, your faith has made you well. Go in peace, and be healed of your affliction.”

He called her Daughter.
He gave her not only healing, but identity.
Not just relief from pain, but peace.
Not just physical restoration, but spiritual belonging.

And He let us glimpse something else too:
Healing cost Him.
Power went out of Him. Ministry took something real from Him.
It always had. It always would—up to and through the cross.

A Faith That Presses Through the Crowd

I think about this woman and the way she came to Jesus—unworthy, hidden, hurting… but hopeful.

That’s how many of us approach Him, isn’t it?

We don’t always come shouting our faith from the rooftops.
Sometimes we come quietly, trembling, barely holding on.

But Jesus honors that kind of faith.
The faith that says, “I know who You are. And I know what You can do.”

Hope That Knows

This woman didn’t come to Jesus with a passive, maybe-it’ll-work-out kind of hope.
She came with certainty in His power.

Her faith wasn’t, “I hope He notices me.”
It was, “If I can just touch Him, I will be made well.”

That kind of expectancy moves the heart of God.
And He still meets us with that same tenderness, power, and peace.

He doesn’t shame us for our pain.
He doesn’t recoil from what makes us feel unclean.
He meets us exactly where we are—and does far more than we could imagine.

A Final Thought

Maybe you feel like the woman in this story today—unclean, unseen, out of options. Maybe you’re struggling with something too personal to speak aloud, too painful to bring into the light.

Friend, reach out anyway.
Jesus sees. Jesus knows. Jesus responds.

Come not with polished perfection, but with faith that believes:

“He can heal me. He can make me whole.”

And He will.

More Random Quotes

In perplexities — when we cannot tell what to do, when we cannot understand what is going on around us — let us be calmed and steadied and made patient by the thought that what is hidden from us is not hidden from Him.

–Frances Ridley Havergal

 

All of us have wondered at times why God doesn’t do more to fix our problems. But our human eyes often fail to see that God isn’t rushing to change our circumstances because he is concerned with a much more serious problem — our character. While you struggle with the woes of this world, God’s main occupation is preparing you for the world to come. The focus of what God is doing in your life takes place in you, not around you.

–Andy Stanley, in “Like A Rock”

 

A difficult crisis can be more readiliy endured if we retain the conviction that our existence holds a purpose — a cause to pursue, a person to love, a goal to achieve.

–John Maxwell

 

Wherever you are, be all there. Live to the hilt every situation you believe to be the will of God.

–Jim Elliot

 

God has a thousand ways

Where I can see not one;

When all my means have reached their end

Then His have just begun.

–Esther Guyot

 

Hope is not the conviction that something will turn out well, but the certainty that something makes sense regardless of how it turns out.

–Barbara Johnson

 

Some of my Favorite Albert Einstein Quotes

Before God we are all equally wise – and equally foolish.

Few people are capable of expressing with equanimity opinions which differ from the prejudices of their social environment. Most people are even incapable of forming such opinions.

Gravitation cannot be held responsible for people falling in love. How on earth can you explain in terms of chemistry and physics so important a biological phenomenon as first love? Put your hand on a stove for a minute and it seems like an hour. Sit with that special girl for an hour and it seems like a minute. That’s relativity.

 

Imagination is more important than knowledge…

 

It is a miracle that curiosity survives formal education.

 

The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing. One cannot help but be in awe when he contemplates the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous structure of reality. It is enough if one tries merely to comprehend a little of this mystery every day. Never lose a holy curiosity.

A Cord of Three Strands: The Gift of Friendship

“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor.
For if they fall, one will lift up his companion.
But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him up…
A threefold cord is not quickly broken.”

— Ecclesiastes 4:9–12

Friendship.
A true, soul-deep kind of friendship.
One who knows you, understands you, stands beside you, and lifts you up when life gets heavy.

The writer of Ecclesiastes understood something timeless and profound: We were never meant to do life alone.

God, in His perfect wisdom, designed us for relationship—first with Him, and then with one another. He placed in us a need not only for shelter and sustenance, but for connection. Companionship. Care. Shared laughter, shared burdens, shared journeys.


Why Two Are Better Than One

Ecclesiastes 4 paints a clear and tender picture of the value of friendship:

  • Two people working together accomplish more—and get to celebrate those victories together.

  • When one falls, the other can lift them up.

  • In moments of need, in the coldness of life’s challenges, true friends offer warmth—emotional, spiritual, even physical.

  • In battle—whether literal or metaphorical—having someone by your side makes you stronger, steadier, safer.

And then that beautiful final line:

“A threefold cord is not quickly broken.”

Friendship is powerful on its own—but when God is woven into the center of that relationship, it becomes unbreakable.

What Friendship Looks Like in Real Life

Researchers like Robert B. Hayes and Paul H. Wright have spent years studying friendship. They offer language for what many of us have felt deeply but maybe never fully put into words.

Hayes speaks of four meaningful behaviors that shape friendship:

  1. Companionship – the simple joy of sharing time and space together

  2. Consideration – helpfulness, thoughtfulness, showing up

  3. Communication – open exchange of thoughts, stories, and truths

  4. Affection – expressing care, love, and value for one another

Wright adds five friendship values:

  • Utility – helping with practical needs

  • Stimulation – sparking new ideas, growth, and curiosity

  • Ego support – encouraging us, especially after setbacks

  • Self-affirmation – reinforcing our true identity and strengths

  • Security – being a safe, trustworthy, and reliable presence

What a gift it is when a friendship reflects even just a few of these qualities—let alone all of them.

Even Jesus Had Friends

John 11:5 tells us that Jesus loved Martha, Mary, and Lazarus.
He accepted their hospitality.
He grieved when Lazarus died.
He was present in their everyday, ordinary lives—and He loved them.

Jesus—who needed nothing—chose friendship.
And in doing so, He showed us that being fully alive requires more than just survival. It requires love.

Friendship as a Divine Gift

True friendship is not just a bonus. It’s a blessing.
It’s one of the ways God shows His care and presence to us—through human hearts that listen, encourage, pray, and walk beside us.

When we’re lonely, He sends someone to remind us we’re seen.
When we’re weary, He brings someone to help carry the load.
When we’re celebrating, He gives us someone to laugh with.

In a world that often pulls people apart, the gift of a friend who walks with you is something sacred.

A Final Thought

If you have friends like this—thank God for them. Nurture those relationships. Show up, speak love, and keep that cord strong.

If you’re longing for deeper connection, pray for it. Ask God to send people into your life who reflect His heart. And be willing to be that kind of friend for someone else.

Because in a world that’s often cold and overwhelming, two are better than one.
And when God is in the middle, that friendship becomes something even more unshakable.

“A threefold cord is not quickly broken.”

Remembering How to Dance

“You will show me the path of life;
In Your presence is fullness of joy;
At Your right hand are pleasures forevermore.”

— Psalm 16:11

“Be glad in the Lord and rejoice, you righteous;
And shout for joy, all you upright in heart!”

— Psalm 32:11

“Well done, good and faithful servant…
Enter into the joy of your Lord.”

— Matthew 25:23

Tonight, while working out (of all things!), I was reminded that God can use the oddest, most unexpected moments to help us grow—and to bring us back to life in Him.

For a long time, I lost sight of joy.
Not intentionally, not dramatically—but slowly, quietly, in a way that crept in without me even noticing.

The Long Season of Too-Tight Shoes

There was a season in my life when everything was about living soberly, righteously, and—most of all—seriously. I wanted to follow God with my whole heart, and somewhere along the way, I started believing that the only way to do that was by eliminating everything that might be joyful or light.

What else did I need to cleanse from my life?
What was I doing wrong?
Which kinds of music should I forgo?
How much more fabric should I add to my wardrobe?
Where else was I failing—God, my husband, my children, my friends?

The joy was gone.
The freedom was gone.
And slowly, so was I.

The Moment It Hit Me

One day, while watching a favorite TV show (one of the few guilty pleasures I allowed myself), a character said something that stopped me in my tracks:

“My shoes are too tight… but it doesn’t matter, for I’ve forgotten how to dance.”

And just like that, something clicked.

I remembered how I used to dance—literally. I used to dance around the house with headphones on, moving while I cooked or cleaned, letting the rhythm bring me joy. It wasn’t about performance. It was about delight. About freedom. About worship.

But somewhere along the way, I had stopped.

Not just dancing—but laughing.
Enjoying.
Living.

I had given up the lightness of life, the humor, the joy of being fully and freely myself in the presence of a God who delights in me.

Laughter Is a Language of the Kingdom

“A merry heart does good, like medicine…”
— Proverbs 17:22a

Laughing is more than just a reaction—it’s an expression of joy that comes straight from the heart of God. Humor is edifying. Encouraging. Healing.

Colossians 3:23 tells us:

“Whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord…”

And that “whatever” includes dancing.
It includes laughter.
It includes joy.

Laughter and music are two of God’s greatest gifts. They allow us to express our hearts, our hope, our dreams, even our pain. And sometimes? The best source of humor is the person staring back at me in the mirror.

I’ve learned that laughing at myself—not in shame, but in grace—is a sign of healing. A sign that I’m beginning to see myself the way God does: fully known, fully loved.

Learning to Dance Again

It’s not always easy to walk out of bondage.
Legalism can feel so noble, so disciplined, so holy.
But it’s empty when it’s joyless.

Joy is part of our inheritance.
And every day, God is gently teaching me how to dance again.

To move when He leads.
To hear His music, even if it’s different than the one others hear.
To let my feet follow the rhythm of grace.

And you know what?
It’s okay if I’m the only one in the room dancing.
Because He is there with me.

I’m taking off the too-tight shoes.
And I’m putting on the ones that were made for me—shoes of peace, joy, and freedom.

I’m learning to dance again.
And I’m doing it joyfully.